In my book Embracing Gethsemane: Navigating Life's Darkest Moments, I explore the challenging periods of life we all face. I call these "Gethsemane moments," inspired by the night Jesus prayed in the Garden of Gethsemane before His crucifixion. It was a moment of profound agony and inner turmoil, yet it culminated in a declaration of unwavering faith: “Not as I will, but as you will” (Matthew 26:39).
Navigating these Gethsemane moments can feel overwhelming. Often, we might be tempted to retreat inward, convinced that we must carry our burdens alone. But I want to remind you that it is never too early to reach out for help. Seeking assistance for our mental health and our relationships isn't a sign of weakness—it's an act of courage. It reflects the recognition that we weren't meant to navigate life alone.
When we look to Jesus in the Garden of Gethsemane, we see that even He sought the company of His closest friends, Peter, James, and John (Matthew 26:36-38). He confided in them, sharing that His soul was "overwhelmed with sorrow to the point of death." He also sought strength in prayer, turning to His heavenly Father. This powerful combination of companionship and prayer models how we should approach our own dark moments.
Focusing on Jesus, learning from other faithful followers and seeking helpful resources like counseling can help us live a life that says, “Not as I will, but as you will.” Here’s how:
Focusing on Jesus
Fixing your gaze on Jesus enables you to draw strength from His example. Hebrews 12:2 encourages us to "fix our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.” He is familiar with suffering and understands your struggles intimately. He reminds you that there is hope and purpose beyond the pain.
Learning from Other Faithful Followers
Surrounding yourself with others who have walked through their Gethsemane moments can be incredibly encouraging. Their stories of faith and resilience can remind you that you aren't alone. As Proverbs 27:17 says, “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” Sometimes, the wisdom of fellow believers can offer a fresh perspective that you might not have considered.
Seeking Helpful Resources
There's no shame in seeking professional help when needed. Christian counseling can provide tools to manage mental health issues and relationship struggles. It's about finding guidance that aligns with your faith. Proverbs 11:14 reminds us, "Where there is no guidance, a people falls, but in an abundance of counselors there is safety.
These three principles can transform your approach to the darkest moments of your life. When you seek help early, you choose faith over fear and wisdom over isolation.
In my life, I've found comfort in using these principles during times of distress. Like Jesus in Gethsemane, I often feel the tension between my will and God's. But through prayer and surrender, I've learned to echo Jesus' words: "Not as I will, but as you will."
So, wherever you find yourself today, remember that you don’t have to navigate your Gethsemane moments alone. Seek help early, focus on Jesus, learn from others, and reach out for resources. You, too, can pray with Jesus and live a life that declares, “Not as I will, but as you will.”
I explore these thoughts and more in my new book Embracing Gethsemane: Navigating Life’s Darkest Moments. You can purchase the book here: https://amzn.to/3IwgFHa
Jim
The Chaplain Writer